What the Bible says about self-control (and some practical tips)
Self-control is defined as the ability to control one’s thoughts, impulses, actions, and desires. And human nature being what it is, this can be a daily struggle.
Fortunately the Bible offers us wisdom on developing self-control and recognizing situations that call for it. Scripture also provides us with the assurance that even though our human spirits may be weak, God’s Holy Spirit is the source of self-control, and He is ready and willing to help us when we’re in need (Galatians 5:22-23; Romans 7:21-25).
We as humans struggle so much with ourselves and our desires sometimes which lead to destruction both personally and professionally. It can directly affect one’s well-being and that of those around them. Self-control is something you can develop which will change your life for the better.
What we will learn :
- How does the Bible talk about self-control?
- Examples from the bible about self-control
- Important things to remember on our journey toward self-control (with practical tips)
You’ll soon be able to develop your own powerful, prayerful toolbox to help fix life’s leaky faucet of temptations and distractions.
Let’s dive right in.
How Does the Bible Talk About Self-Control?
Sometimes the Bible names “self-control” specifically, and sometimes it talks about the behavioral building blocks and principles that support and enable self-control.
Let’s start with a straightforward passage of Scripture that lists self-control definitively as a positive trait.
Self-control as a fruit of the Holy Spirit
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law” (Galatians 5: 22-23, NKJV)
Here, self-control is listed as one of the “fruits of the Spirit.” These “fruits” are positive behaviors or virtues that are evident in us when the Holy Spirit is guiding us. It’s clear to see how important this is—especially when you read the opposites of these virtues in verses 19-21!
To bear the fruits of the Holy Spirit, we must allow God’s presence in our daily lives. Doing this helps us to overcome all the relentless temptations around us with the help of the Holy Spirit
By yielding to the Holy Spirit’s influence, we become less influenced by every passing whim or impulse that comes about. This kind of self-control helps us be more stable, reliable, efficient, and compassionate.
Self-control as part of a step-by-step process
“For this reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with goodness, goodness with knowledge, knowledge with self-control, self-control with endurance, endurance with godliness, godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love” (2 Peter 1:5-7, CSB).
Here we are encouraged to never stop growing. And that self-control is an integral part of that process.
In the verse preceding this passage, we’re told that God has invited all of us to claim His promises so we can “share in the divine nature, escaping the corruption that is in the world because of evil desire” (verse 4, CSB).
Self-control is represented here as a necessary addition to the pursuit of faith, knowledge, and love.
Self-control is a commitment to self, keeping the goal in mind
“I have made a covenant with my eyes…” (Job 31:1, CSB).
Job talks about keeping a “covenant” with his eyes, telling himself not to look upon a woman with lust. This verse gives us a peek at the internal process that happens when we exercise self-control.
When working on our self-control, it’s important to practice keeping our word first to ourselves.
And as we grow, with God’s help, we can perfect this internal process and learn to “rule our spirit,” as this Proverb describes:
“One who is slow to answer is better than the mighty, and one who rules his spirit, than one who captures a city” (Proverbs 16:32, CSB).
Self-control is possible because God provides us the strength
We have been given the capacity to discipline ourselves, as we let the Holy Spirit lead us.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love, and sound judgment” (2 Timothy 1:7, CSB).
“No temptation has come upon you except what is common to humanity. But God is faithful; He will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation He will also provide the way out so that you may be able to bear it” (1 Corinthians 10:13, CSB).
And isn’t it comforting that God never forces us to handle more than we can bear? He always provides a way out of any temptation. We just need to look for it.
We can also claim the assurance that even when we feel weak or drained of willpower, we can “do all things through Christ who strengthens” us (Philippians 4:13, CSB)..
Self-control is about drawing healthy boundaries
“For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all people, instructing us to deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly, righteously, and in a godly manner in the present age” (Titus 2:11, 12, CSB).
This verse talks about saying no to selfish, destructive things and instead to rely on God’s guidance.
A key element of “worldliness” is excess. Too much of a good thing may not always be healthy. It’s important to stay in touch with ourselves, recognizing where we might need to say “no” to things.
The Bible describes someone without self-control like “a city broken into and left without walls” (Proverbs 25:28, ESV).
Setting boundaries is a positive process. It means we are on guard at all times, so God can provide us with the power to resist evil. If our will (or our city wall) is weak, evil can enter easily and destroy everything we’ve worked hard for.
Self-control requires training with the lasting goal in mind: ETERNAL LIFE
“Do you not know that in a race, all the runners run, but only one gets the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever” (1 Corinthians 9:24-25).
Examples from the Bible
As we continue our journey toward better self-control, the Bible is our helpful companion. It’s pages are filled with examples of ordinary people doing extraordinary things with the help of prayerful self-control.
From these examples, we can gather that a deep spiritual connection with God is what fuels our self-control journeys.
Jesus tempted in the wilderness (Matthew 4:1-11)
Before Jesus began His official ministry on earth, He went into the desert to fast and pray for 40 days. There, He was tempted by the devil in three ways:
- Hunger (tempted Jesus to turn stones into bread)
- Power (tempted Jesus to be reckless because angels would protect Him)
- Wealth (tempted Jesus with possession of everything in the world)
Satan used each of these avenues of selfish desire to try to get Jesus to doubt His identity, His strength, His role, and His commitment.
But Jesus exercised self-control in each situation, overcoming it with the spiritual strength which He had from a lifestyle of communing with God, fasting, and prayer.
“Do not be overcome with evil, but overcome evil with good” (Romans 12:21, ).
The lesson: Jesus is the example we can study to understand how to master “self.” He relied completely on the Father to guide Him, and He prepared Himself to face challenges with fasting and prayer.
“I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing” John 15:5, NKJV).
Joseph tempted while working for Potiphar (Genesis 39)
Joseph ended up becoming the prime minister of Egypt—but before his rise to fame, he was a servant in the house of a prominent official of the Pharaoh. He was also “handsome in form and appearance” (Genesis 39:6, NKJV). The official’s wife tried to get him to sleep with her, but he refused all her advances.
Joseph’s heart was fixed on keeping himself right in the eyes of God.
As the story reveals, he fled the scene when she grabbed him.
Joseph had to deal with some rocky circumstances after that, but ultimately, God led him to the brightest future possible.
The lesson: Run away from temptation if you feel it’s necessary. Sometimes, if we’re not sure we can rely on our own willpower to do the right thing, it’s best to just remove ourselves from the situation. God can provide a way out.
Daniel and his friends refuse the Babylonian king’s food (Daniel 1:8-21)
Daniel and his friends were taken captive with other Jews to Babylon (modern-day Iraq). They were to eat palace food as part of their grooming to be fit to serve in the kingdom. It would involve them eating food that was either unclean, according to Levitical laws, or sacrificed to false Gods. Whatever the case, Daniel knew that it wouldn’t be a good idea to accept this food—no matter how good it looked.
So even though their lives were in danger, they refused the king’s food. They opted instead for simple, healthy food.
And as it turned out, “at the end of the ten days, they looked better and healthier than all the young men who were eating the king’s food” (verse 15, CSB).
The lesson: Be committed to the ideals God provides us. Good will come out of perseverance and standing our ground. And God promises to be there for us when we need Him.
True self-control only comes from reliance upon God
While self-control has the word “self” right at the front, one thing we can take away from what the Bible says on this topic is that we don’t have to do this alone. God is our strength when we are weak. And He’s rooting for us the whole way. He will never leave us.
“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9, CSB).
“Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will hold on to you with my righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41:10, CSB).
Self-control is not going to happen overnight. It takes time and practice, but it starts with the willingness and clarity of intention to start and stay committed. And asking for help and guidance won’t make you any less worthy as a human being.
The most important thing to do is to get started. Open your Bible in prayerful study, and be open to the Holy Spirit’s guidance as you begin your growth toward self-control.
Here are some tips to help you begin.
Practical Tips for your Self-Control Journey
How can we have better self-control in various areas of life? What kinds of things help us develop that?
- Self-inventory: Try keeping a journal for your progress. You can start by noting your areas of difficulty when it comes to self-control (2 Corinthians 13:5). Write down your thoughts and feelings when it comes to these struggles, write out prayers, take note of helpful passages of Scripture, etc.
- Memorize scripture related to your struggles. Pray and meditate on those Scriptures during your daily devotions.
- Remove things from your life that might be negatively affecting your willpower (similar to the sentiment of Matthew 5:29-30). No one is telling you to remove your eyes or cut off your hands, but it could be that something about your environment can be adjusted to make your self-control journey easier.
- Study the life of Jesus and how He responded to those who would provoke Him. Jesus is our ultimate example, and by contemplating Him, we can become more like Him (2 Corinthians 3:18).
- Learn to say no. We cannot pour out of an empty cup, and we are not called upon to do everything. Even Jesus and His disciples took breaks when it was necessary (Mark 6:31).
- Respond vs. React. Pause before you react to things that happen to you. (That’s why people are told to count to 10 when they’re angry!) Proverbs 14:29 says that “whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly” (ESV). Sometimes it just takes a little extra thought to stop us from responding in a way we might regret later (James 1:19, 20).
- Practice accountability. Your journal can help you with this. Be honest about what you struggled with and don’t beat yourself up if you make a misstep. You could try an accountability partner who will check in on you and keep you on track.
- Start with small goals and make an action plan for each goal. And reward yourself! We don’t have to deprive ourselves completely in order to grow.
Remember—God has sent His Holy Spirit to help us on this journey!
- All we have to do is ask for help in our prayers and proceed with faith (Mark 11:24).
- James 4:7 tells us that if we “submit” ourselves to God, it helps us “resist the devil, and he will flee from you” (ESV). Remember that your willpower is like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it gets.
- We can claim God’s promise that the Holy Spirit will offer us help. “The Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, He will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you” (John 14:26, ESV). What’s more, the Holy Spirit is already with us! He dwells within us (1 Corinthians 3:16). Often we just need to pause and be open to listening to Him.
As you seek God for greater self-control in your life, studying the Bible will equip you with promises and open your heart to the Holy Spirit. Why not make our Bible studies part of your self-control journey?
Questions about Adventists? Ask here!
Find answers to your questions about Seventh-day Adventists
Healing in the BibleThe Bible has a lot to say about healing. It also shows countless times God healed people in many different ways. Often we might think of Jesus healing the sick people He encountered during His earthly ministry. And there are several stories of...
How Important is a “Day of Rest?” Why God Created a Day for Downtime by Martin Casper Do you ever experience the feeling of complete overload? Do you feel like the only way you can get ahead is by slamming it 24/7? I hear these types of comments more and more...
7 Reasons Why a Day of Rest is ImportantWe live in a fast-paced world. It seems as if success is measured in how much you can do in a short amount of time. (Extra points for the service or product that is available 24/7). The idea that we will be more successful if we...
How do Adventists choose what to eat?Every day, parents go through the ritual of getting their kids to eat what is healthy and good while trying to steer them away from what can hinder the growth of their developing bodies. Nutritionists work with their clients to...
Is it possible to have a happy marriage?
How do Adventists make movie and music choices?Cinema has come a long way since the first clips of motion pictures came to light in 1878. As the decades rolled on, film and music producers have created rivers of movies and albums for the masses. Today, watching movies...
Why are many Adventists Vegetarian?The diet intended for man is outlined in Genesis 1:29, “And God said, ‘See, I have given you every herb that yields seed which is on the face of all the earth, and every tree whose fruit yields seed; to you it shall be for food.’”...
Didn’t find your answer? Ask us!
We understand your concern of having questions but not knowing who to ask—we’ve felt it ourselves. When you’re ready to learn more about Adventists, send us a question! We know a thing or two about Adventists.